I’ve been
having a weird couple weeks, what with the writer’s block, the CATS breathing down
my neck and girl dramas but I’m still here. Sir G.O.D hasn’t yet crossed me out
as expired so I get to still placing my prints all over the place...
| patter patter |
| life is a box of chocolates... |
Well
depends... I have an amazing, wonderful, fantastic group of girlfriends ( now y’all
can feel tickled pink, I know y’all are reading this {southern belle
accent}) We get along fine, have awesome
and not so awesome moments. Heck we even got a nickname in school, making me
feel like I’m in a clique (which we are sooooo not!) But you’ve got to realise
even though we are close, we respect each other’s boundaries. Know how far you
can prod before you cause permanent damage, because when a member of the female
species decides to hold a grudge, yaani
leo ni leo and you get the “You’re dead to me” look, just know you are
royally screwed. I should know, I’m female and I’ve held grudges before, some
are still highly valid. Yes, I have faults, so sue me. For the record I’m also
pretty mean too but I suppress it as much as possible.
Back to the
main thing, remember boundaries. There’s only so far you can go before you burn
bridges. So here’s Girl Code For
Dummies:
1.
Thou shall love, respect and care for
each other.
Kinda self
explanatory. I mean, why else would you want to be and keep being friends in
the first place? Of course there are those weird frienemies around but they
aren’t included here. That’s for another day.
2.
Thou shall listen to thy fellow
sister’s peeves ( Whether in agreement or not)
Every lady
knows what I’m talking about. That build- up you feel when someone irritates,
offends or hurts you and you just need to let it all out if not to fix it but
to feel better. That’s where your close friend comes in, to listen and empathise. Note: To empathise. Not to
criticize, or to reason it out or to downplay it, you hear! If she wanted to do
all those things she would have sat quietly in a corner and done that for
herself. If Amy and Bernadette in Big
Bang Theory could figure that out and they are kind of socially challenged,
sembuse wewe? In related news, I love
that show, which makes me a bigger geek than I thought, damn! So if your friend
bursts into your room with eyeballs bulging out and nostrils flaring and she’s
this close to turning into a raging bull, you know what to do.
3.Thou shall not date thy sister’s exes or her male pals no matter how
hot they are (unless of course she gave you the go ahead)
Many a
friendship have been torn asunder due to the male species. Mark my words-many!
No one thinks that will ever happen to her or her best buds until it actually
does. It’s like we are naturally territorial over dudes with whom we shared an
emotional bond, like the way lions pee on shrubs or trees around their habitat
to ‘announce’ to all and sundry that that’s their space. Same thing. Of course if it’s some unknown
chick, we can suppress that territorial possessive nature because society
demands it to be so. But with your friend with whom you are more free with, it’s
harder to repress the urge to rip her head off, and if she really wants the
dude, the friendship- breakup may be deemed necessary for order to prevail
again. She gets to date him, and you don’t feel like ripping her head off. It’s
a win-win situation. Highly related- Thou
shall not pussy-block (I think it applies to us too) thy fellow sister with a
prospective dude. Especially replacing her with yourself. It just shows you
have self- esteem issues. Really. All your friends will just feel sorry and embarrassed
on your behalf.
4.Thou
shall be happy for thy fellow sister’s achievements
She won the
Noble Peace prize. Sing her praises on live television. She just gave birth.
Visit her, with gifts for both her and her bundle of joy and croon over it and
tell her it’s the most adorable baby you’ve ever seen. She got her degree, you
will congratulate her, and definitely take her out. She got a new hairstyle, compliment
her. She bought something new, tell her it’s amazing. Don’t belittle her
achievements or be so self- centred that your first reaction is to be best buds
with the green-eyed monster.
5. Thou shall freely give a leaning
shoulder to thy fellow sister to cry on.
Sometimes can really kick your gluteus maximus to the point
that all you want to do is crawl up in bed and time to pass you by. That’s
where friends come in. To listen to your woes, to provide that very-needed hug
and to help you get back on your feet. They’ll help you take your mind off
those dismal exam results, that ugly break-up or that fall-out you had with
some acquaintance. However don’t take it for granted and overdo it, your friends’
shoulders have a limit to how much they can carry. This brings me to...
6. Thou
shall NOT take advantage of a sister’s kindness and forget to reciprocate.
Remember
everyone can only do so much, so don’t be too self-centred to the point it
becomes a one-sided give and give friendship. And to make matters worse you rarely
show appreciation, acting like it’s a right? And you wonder how come you come
your friends are slowly growing distant? How now?
You've got to remember friendship is a two way street!
| spreading the love all round! |
I’ve got to
stop here for now since I need to flop into my bed right about two hours ago, so
I’ll leave you with this 6. Plus I’ve got to research more and get more points
on the girl code. However you’ve got to realise that unlike the boy code, the
girl code is highly versatile and might change as soon as tomorrow. J
New thingies :
v Gained two kilograms! That’s it, no
more fries! Healthy eating from now on.
v New song:- Wretch 32 feat Josh Kumra: Don’t go!
This song speaks to my soul, I feel like I’ve been stripped to the core
with it. Maybe that’s why I haven’t yet told Warau about it. Already Liz thinks
its creepy (it’s not!)
See you when you see me!
abby
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